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5 things that surprised me about becoming a mum

1) I called my baby the wrong name for a good few weeks

Naming your baby is so much pressure. We spent weeks ruling out names due to sound, or negative associations, or because you are pregnant and you just don’t like it. 🙂 We narrowed it down to a short list of 3 names and we waited to see our little boy, to make sure the name suited him. When he arrived, that was it, the name matched, we were happy and announced his name to the families. We proceeded to call him by his cousin’s name (born 6 months earlier) for a few weeks….. oops!

2) Baby’s have an ability to poo at the worst time

It is incredible how babies have this built in awareness of the worst timing to do a poo. You are running late and rushing to leave the house and then you smell it……poo! You are just nipping to the shops quickly, no need to bring the nappy bag. You arrive and then you smell it…….poo! You just change his nappy, which is a battle at the best of times and next thing you smell it…… poo!

All you can do is laugh at his cutie face and get out the changing mat again.

3) Mums are meant to have all the answers

I had this realisation the first time our little one was sick. His temperature had spiked and wouldn’t come down. My husband looked at me with concern, what will we do, and I thought I have no idea. Let me ring mum and there it was. My first instinct, ring MY mum. And now I am the mum, I am somehow meant to magically know the answers. Luckily I have great support from two amazing mums in my life, which is great, as I have a lot to learn! I feel like I should have mummy L-plates on half the time so at least people will know not to expect all the answers, I might just have to ring my mum!

4) The nights are long but the years are short

I heard this phrase recently and I think it’s so appropriate. When you are up in the middle of the night trying to settle a hysterical baby, the nights are long. When you are up feeding for the third time that night while you hear your other half fast asleep beside you, the nights are long. When your little one decides they want to wake every 45 minutes throughout the night, the nights are long.

But you have to remember that this too shall pass. Many people told me things only get harder, which I don’t really believe. They are different, but not harder. Instead of exhausted from lack of sleep you are exhausted from running around after your little one. Nothing is harder than being terribly sleep deprived. But remember, it will pass.

When I look back on the last year, it really does fly by and I have a feeling the years will just get quicker. We gotta make the most of it while we can.

5) It takes a village to raise a baby

I have no idea how people live far away from their families or move to new places with newborns. Whether its friends or family, we all need support. Especially in those early years. Having someone around to watch your little one while you nip out to the shops, grab a shower or just have a night out to unwind is so important. Having those sanity breaks is so important for our own mental health and wellbeing. So it really does take a village to raise a baby. Remember happy parents mean happy babies!

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My baby has an allergy

The most scary part if weaning is the fear that your baby will have an allergy. And how you will respond to that. If your baby has eczema, you should be more wary of allergies as they are often related.

When weaning your baby the advice is to keep a good diary. I downloaded an app called baby tracker to keep track of what I was feeding my little one. It meant that I could update the record on the run which was very useful.

The most common allergies are dairy, eggs, peanuts, treenuts and kiwi. So do keep an eye on things when you introduce those. You are recommended to only introduce one new food item every 3 days but sticking to that is hard as there are so many things you want to get your baby on. So I never had more than one new thing per meal. I introduced new foods at lunch. That way if there was an allergy, doctors would be open.

Unfortunately the pharmacy will not sell you any antihistamines for a child under 1. So there is nothing you can have on hand just in case.

Typically a child will have a very mild reaction the first time they eat something they are allergic to. But a much more severe reaction the second time. Things to look out for:

  • Redness around the mouth
  • Redness around the eyes
  • Swollen lips or tongue
  • A hive like rash on the body
  • Shortness of breath

If your baby has more than one of these symptoms, I would advise going straight to your doctor or a&e.

Our little one has an allergy to kiwi and the second reaction he ever had was to a piece of melon I gave him out of my fruit salad. So I thought it was an allergy to melon. It never dawned on me that the fruit salad had kiwi juice in there too.

The first time he had kiwi, he had redness around his mouth, which faded in a few hours. I didn’t think much about it, as he had a similar reaction to milk until he built up a tolerance.

The second time he had kiwi was kiwi juice on the melon in my fruit salad. It was Saturday morning and he had a moderate reaction, redness near his eyes and a lot around his mouth. We took him to a&e but luckily it didn’t get worse. At this point we were convinced it was a melon alleegy.

Then the third time he had it, he had half a kiwi and had a pretty scary reaction. He had redness around his mouth, swollen lips, hives everywhere and redness around his eyes. We luckily had been prescribed antihistamines so gave him that. And our GP referred us to a children’s allergy clinic.

My advice, always consider whether there could be cross contamination with your babies new foods and always get things checked if in doubt.

We are lucky our little one doesnt have a peanut allergy. But we have been advised that it’s common to develop one and as such we should give him peanut butter at least 3 times a week. He loves it! 😁