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Take a deep breath and keep on going …

I feel like the luckiest person in the world to be a mum to my amazing little one. Most days he is a very happy baby (or should I say toddler now!), full of smiles, giggles and chats. But, like everyone, he also has his grumpy days, which are often as a result of teething, sickness or more recently mummy leaving.

You would think that a baby crying is fine, just let him cry it out and it will all be grand. But the reality of it is very different. If you are trying to do even the simplest task with a crying child, everything gets instantly more stressful. Even more so when you have no idea what’s wrong (and it’s out of character).

This is typically the time that snapping happens, if anyone is trying to help me at the time. Rational thinking goes out the window. These are the moments we feel super stressed and totally not ourselves.

Like everything, this moment of crying will soon pass, and rational thinking will return, I promise! But in the midst of it, all we can really do is take a deep breath and keep on going.

If any mum or dad snaps at you while trying to calm a crazy baby, don’t take it personally, they just need a few minutes. Things will be back to normal shortly. They just need a minute to take a deep breath 🙂

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When all you can do is laugh….

I have talked previously about poo explosions (poonamis) and I am sure you think that this is an exaggeration, so I thought I would share one of our messier incidents.

When my little one was born he was the king of frequent Poos, roughly every 2 hours (but typically the minute he had a fresh nappy on). So I had no idea what people were talking about when referring to poo explosions.

But oh did I find out! As our little one got bigger, his poos became less frequent and much bigger!!

I was in a local shopping centre in Butlers one morning. It was packed and I stupidly bought a tea and scone. I spent over 10 minutes with a tray in one hand, pushing a buggy in the other trying to find a seat (in a very cramped cafe!).

Eventually a seat became free so I manoverd the buggy into place and sat down. I put the little one on my lap for a change of scenery for him. I had just buttered my scone when I heard a big rumble from his nappy and I just knew it was a big one.

So I sat there contemplating what should I do. Do I leave the tea and scone I so longed for and go straight to the baby room or do I take 5 minutes to eat the scone, have some tea and then go. 5 minutes won’t make much of a difference I am sure. So I popped some tissues behind his top to protect it (just in case) and took my 5 minute break.

Once I was done, I carried the little one in one hand, pushed the buggy in the other to get him upstairs to the baby room. I couldn’t put him down as everyone knows the biggest no no in poonami’s is pressure on the nappy!

In the short 2 minutes it took me to get to the changing room, not only did I discover we did infact have the biggest poonami ever, but this had spread up his back and leaked into my top! I have plenty of emergency clothes for the little one, but none for me! 🙈🙈

So I tried by best to wash my top and had to walked around the shops with a big wet patch on my top before starting my 30 minute walk home.

Lesson of the day, in the realm of poonami’s, 5 minutes makes all the difference!

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It was snow joke

For those of you that heard, the beast from the east collided with storm Emma last week to wreak havoc on Ireland. I have never seen snow like this in my lifetime. We had over 40 cm of snow, the roads were impassable for days, the airports closed, public transport ground to a halt, ferries stopped running and suddenly I was very aware that we are on an island.

While most Irish people were bedding down for their snow days, I was trying desperately to get to a family wedding in the UK. With 3 cancelled flights and 2 cancelled ferries, we decided to try one more time and head up to Belfast to get a flight. Thankfully while the roads were very poor at times, we made it up safely and our flight took off the morning of the wedding.

Knowing how bad the drive could potentially be, there was no way I could take the baby, so my little one and hubby stayed at home. As I kissed them both goodbye I got quite emotional. All of a sudden I had visions of crashes in the snow and not making it back home. I looked at them and had this horrible feeling, how would they cope if I wasn’t around? I have to get to MY baby’s wedding some day.

I was really surprised by my reaction as I am someone who has had a few less than sensible adventures in the past. But I realised how important it is to look after myself from now on. Be a more sensible person. As there are so many exciting times to look forward to that I don’t want to miss.

Stay safe everyone! Xx

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5 things that surprised me about becoming a mum

1) I called my baby the wrong name for a good few weeks

Naming your baby is so much pressure. We spent weeks ruling out names due to sound, or negative associations, or because you are pregnant and you just don’t like it. 🙂 We narrowed it down to a short list of 3 names and we waited to see our little boy, to make sure the name suited him. When he arrived, that was it, the name matched, we were happy and announced his name to the families. We proceeded to call him by his cousin’s name (born 6 months earlier) for a few weeks….. oops!

2) Baby’s have an ability to poo at the worst time

It is incredible how babies have this built in awareness of the worst timing to do a poo. You are running late and rushing to leave the house and then you smell it……poo! You are just nipping to the shops quickly, no need to bring the nappy bag. You arrive and then you smell it…….poo! You just change his nappy, which is a battle at the best of times and next thing you smell it…… poo!

All you can do is laugh at his cutie face and get out the changing mat again.

3) Mums are meant to have all the answers

I had this realisation the first time our little one was sick. His temperature had spiked and wouldn’t come down. My husband looked at me with concern, what will we do, and I thought I have no idea. Let me ring mum and there it was. My first instinct, ring MY mum. And now I am the mum, I am somehow meant to magically know the answers. Luckily I have great support from two amazing mums in my life, which is great, as I have a lot to learn! I feel like I should have mummy L-plates on half the time so at least people will know not to expect all the answers, I might just have to ring my mum!

4) The nights are long but the years are short

I heard this phrase recently and I think it’s so appropriate. When you are up in the middle of the night trying to settle a hysterical baby, the nights are long. When you are up feeding for the third time that night while you hear your other half fast asleep beside you, the nights are long. When your little one decides they want to wake every 45 minutes throughout the night, the nights are long.

But you have to remember that this too shall pass. Many people told me things only get harder, which I don’t really believe. They are different, but not harder. Instead of exhausted from lack of sleep you are exhausted from running around after your little one. Nothing is harder than being terribly sleep deprived. But remember, it will pass.

When I look back on the last year, it really does fly by and I have a feeling the years will just get quicker. We gotta make the most of it while we can.

5) It takes a village to raise a baby

I have no idea how people live far away from their families or move to new places with newborns. Whether its friends or family, we all need support. Especially in those early years. Having someone around to watch your little one while you nip out to the shops, grab a shower or just have a night out to unwind is so important. Having those sanity breaks is so important for our own mental health and wellbeing. So it really does take a village to raise a baby. Remember happy parents mean happy babies!

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My baby has an allergy

The most scary part if weaning is the fear that your baby will have an allergy. And how you will respond to that. If your baby has eczema, you should be more wary of allergies as they are often related.

When weaning your baby the advice is to keep a good diary. I downloaded an app called baby tracker to keep track of what I was feeding my little one. It meant that I could update the record on the run which was very useful.

The most common allergies are dairy, eggs, peanuts, treenuts and kiwi. So do keep an eye on things when you introduce those. You are recommended to only introduce one new food item every 3 days but sticking to that is hard as there are so many things you want to get your baby on. So I never had more than one new thing per meal. I introduced new foods at lunch. That way if there was an allergy, doctors would be open.

Unfortunately the pharmacy will not sell you any antihistamines for a child under 1. So there is nothing you can have on hand just in case.

Typically a child will have a very mild reaction the first time they eat something they are allergic to. But a much more severe reaction the second time. Things to look out for:

  • Redness around the mouth
  • Redness around the eyes
  • Swollen lips or tongue
  • A hive like rash on the body
  • Shortness of breath

If your baby has more than one of these symptoms, I would advise going straight to your doctor or a&e.

Our little one has an allergy to kiwi and the second reaction he ever had was to a piece of melon I gave him out of my fruit salad. So I thought it was an allergy to melon. It never dawned on me that the fruit salad had kiwi juice in there too.

The first time he had kiwi, he had redness around his mouth, which faded in a few hours. I didn’t think much about it, as he had a similar reaction to milk until he built up a tolerance.

The second time he had kiwi was kiwi juice on the melon in my fruit salad. It was Saturday morning and he had a moderate reaction, redness near his eyes and a lot around his mouth. We took him to a&e but luckily it didn’t get worse. At this point we were convinced it was a melon alleegy.

Then the third time he had it, he had half a kiwi and had a pretty scary reaction. He had redness around his mouth, swollen lips, hives everywhere and redness around his eyes. We luckily had been prescribed antihistamines so gave him that. And our GP referred us to a children’s allergy clinic.

My advice, always consider whether there could be cross contamination with your babies new foods and always get things checked if in doubt.

We are lucky our little one doesnt have a peanut allergy. But we have been advised that it’s common to develop one and as such we should give him peanut butter at least 3 times a week. He loves it! 😁

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The magic of Christmas with kids

I can’t believe Christmas has come and gone. It was such a busy period. But it really was one of our best Christmases yet.

While this Christmas was our little ones second official Christmas, it felt like his first as last year he was admitted to hospital on Christmas eve due to low blood sugar. So that really disrupted our plans last year.

This year we felt like we were starting all our family traditions, and it was so much fun.

We got ourselves matching pj’s, had a lovely relaxing Christmas eve walk, made sure a mince pie and coke was left out for Santa and read a Christmas book before bed time.

Over Christmas we managed to fit in a visit to both families, which was very special!

There was so much excitement for both our families having babies around at Christmas.

While I know our little one won’t remember this Christmas, it was still important to us to do things right. Start as we mean to go on. It was so strange being “santa” and setting up the toys as We know our parents did for us for years! So I felt super grown up doing all the mummy jobs. Well not quite all of them, we were extremely lucky to be given two wonderful Christmas dinners over the holidays with each of our families, so no cooking for me thank god. I fear the day I have to cook a full Christmas dinner!

I hope everyone enjoyed their Christmas!

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My return to work

It’s been way too long since I last wrote, primarily because the last 6 weeks have just been a whirlwind. I am back in work roughly 10 weeks (but who is counting) and in the time we have had 1 stomach bug, one vomiting bug, countless colds and coughs and one particularly bad virus.

At the same time I have faced a pre-busy season in work. I am an auditor by trade, so I work in a very male dominated industry. There are not many mommas at my level right now (actually I am the only one at my level but there are a few above and below). To put it into perspective, the department has 200 people, so it’s not a small department!

Finding the right work life balance is so hard! Before my little one arrived, I could easily do on average 12 hour days, ramping that up in busier periods and working my weekends. But I have had a major shift in priorities. I now not only have mothers guilt but guilt I let my team down in work too! I am in charge if pickups from Creche. So I go in early and leave early. If I miss a pick up as I have late meetings, the guilt I feel is just awful. And it’s not just that, it’s that I miss my little one.

I was hoping to hold off writing this post until I had all the answers, until I had achieved the perfect balance and I feel I could provide people with great advice. But the reality is, there is no perfect balance.

I have been stressing over trying to get this balance right, but in the last two weeks I have come to the conclusion that you can’t really have it all. But the important thing is to know what you need to prioritise at different times.

When I feel the guilt, I try and ask myself what will make me happy. Will attending this meeting make me happy, will getting to creche make me happy, will meeting my deadline make me happy? A happy momma is a happy family. A happy worker is a more productive worker. So what will really make me happy????

It changes and flexes every day. But that’s ok too. Achieving things in work is important, but so is being there when your baby needs you.

A sicky baby

Some things I have done that help me:

1) Get a cleaner – you have enough to be doing working and looking after a family, so getting help with the big cleaning jobs is so important

2) be disciplined – I block off my calendar when I am due to go, to avoid meetings going into it.

3) when you feel the guilt, check in and see what makes you happy

4) when you see issues coming up, raise them early, you know when things will become unmanageable!

Finally remember, we are all human, and we are doing our best. That’s all we can do!

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Creche and all its associated diseases!

We started our little one in Creche about 4 weeks ago now. The first two weeks were his settling in period where we built up the time he was in Creche slowly by an hour a day. Before he started in Creche I heard about all the bugs he will pick up. We made it through the first 2 weeks and he didn’t even have a cold. I thought maybe his immune system is slightly stronger. Maybe he won’t get anything…..oh was I wrong! On Saturday his temperature started to spike a bit during the day and he woke up with the sniffles. I just thought here we go, a bad head cold. That’s to be expected! We watched his temperature all Saturday and Sunday, giving him calpol when it went up. On Sunday he was very grumpy. He didn’t really eat much of his food. Eating very little dinner, which is not like him at all. I stress about dinner the most as I am always afraid he will wake up in the middle of the night hungry. So it was bed early for our grumpy boy. He was very unsettled that evening so the hubby went up to check on him. And all of a sudden he vomited everywhere. Not baby vom, but proper vom. He had picked up the winter vomiting bug! 🤢 I was called up to do the clean up while my hubby cuddled a very happy little boy, he looked so relieved. Over the next few days we battled the runs, temperatures and an increasingly worse cold. He also managed to pass the bug on around the family. When I got it I realised how awful my little one felt, no wonder he was so grumpy! Thankfully he is so much better this week and we are pretty much over his cold too. I have a feeling that with all the bugs in Creche.. .. this is definitely not the last bug he will pick up. But better to build up his immunity now…. and ours along the way!

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Heartbreak at leaving my crying baby at creche

Ok so my little one was officially 10 months yesterday, so not really a baby anymore. But as every mother says, he is still my baby!

Last week we started our creche settling in period for our little man. The first day he spent an hour there with daddy. He had a great time playing with all the new toys.

The second day he spent an hour there by himself. I dropped him off. He was busy playing with toys when I left and seemed happy out. Only upon collecting him did we find out about 15 mins after leaving he cried on and off for the rest of his time there. The good thing is that he wasn’t crying by the time he was picked up by nana.

The third day mummy and daddy dropped him off. Today he spent 2 hours at creche. Again, he was happy out when we left as he was busy playing with toys. But the same thing happened 15 mins after we left. He cried on an off until he was picked up by daddy and nana, he was delighted to see them both.

The fourth day, Friday, he went there for 3 hours. He got upset as daddy was leaving. The good thing is that he did sleep. And overall cried less while he was there. So that’s positive. But the minute he saw Daddy he burst into tears until he got a big cuddle.

Today it is my turn to drop him off. I didn’t think much about it as I was running around getting things ready for creche. He was so good going in. I put him down on the floor to play and he was fine. And then all of a sudden he just burst into tears. The kind of wail that means I just want my mummy. I picked him up and he stopped immediately. I handed him over to one of the girls and the wailing started again with his arms outstretched for me to take him back.

My heart absolutely broke. I had to leave my crying baby with people I didn’t know! My eyes start to well with tears of my own. And I start to take big breaths to keep back the tears. I am one of those people who wears my emotions on my sleeve. It was heart breaking walking out of the place. I drove straight to the local shopping centre for a haircut. I feel I deserve a bit of pampering!

I sit here with dye in my hair counting down the hours until I get a big cuddle! This is so much worse than being in work!

I know he will start to enjoy creche, but this settling in phase is so much worse than I ever imagined!Finally home with mummy!

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Such respect for single mums!

Last week my husband went away for 3 nights with work. This was the first time I had to get both myself and our little one ready in the morning with no help. Usually I would make the bottle, grab a shower while my hubby gave our little one a bottle and then we would all go downstairs for breakfast. But when it was just me doing morning prep, things did not go so smoothly!

The first night I barely slept. Not only was I up when our little one woke, but I tossed and turned throughout the night stressed about how I would manage the next morning. It was the same poor quality sleep you get when you have an early morning flight to get the next day and you have the fear that you will sleep in!

The morning went better than expected. I managed to grab a shower before our little one got upset (he had woken but he was just cooing in bed) and because I was up before 6 I got everything I needed done before he woke (bottle prep, breakfast etc).

The following two mornings were not as successful as he woke earlier and was up more at night so I was more tired.

By the time my hubby was back, I was so exhausted! And so relieved to have our little team him back to normal!

However I have a much greater amount of respect for any single parent! It’s really hard to do things by yourself! You are all amazing!