I feel like the luckiest person in the world to be a mum to my amazing little one. Most days he is a very happy baby (or should I say toddler now!), full of smiles, giggles and chats. But, like everyone, he also has his grumpy days, which are often as a result of teething, sickness or more recently mummy leaving.
You would think that a baby crying is fine, just let him cry it out and it will all be grand. But the reality of it is very different. If you are trying to do even the simplest task with a crying child, everything gets instantly more stressful. Even more so when you have no idea what’s wrong (and it’s out of character).
This is typically the time that snapping happens, if anyone is trying to help me at the time. Rational thinking goes out the window. These are the moments we feel super stressed and totally not ourselves.
Like everything, this moment of crying will soon pass, and rational thinking will return, I promise! But in the midst of it, all we can really do is take a deep breath and keep on going.
If any mum or dad snaps at you while trying to calm a crazy baby, don’t take it personally, they just need a few minutes. Things will be back to normal shortly. They just need a minute to take a deep breath 🙂
1) I called my baby the wrong name for a good few weeks
Naming your baby is so much pressure. We spent weeks ruling out names due to sound, or negative associations, or because you are pregnant and you just don’t like it. 🙂 We narrowed it down to a short list of 3 names and we waited to see our little boy, to make sure the name suited him. When he arrived, that was it, the name matched, we were happy and announced his name to the families. We proceeded to call him by his cousin’s name (born 6 months earlier) for a few weeks….. oops!
2) Baby’s have an ability to poo at the worst time
It is incredible how babies have this built in awareness of the worst timing to do a poo. You are running late and rushing to leave the house and then you smell it……poo! You are just nipping to the shops quickly, no need to bring the nappy bag. You arrive and then you smell it…….poo! You just change his nappy, which is a battle at the best of times and next thing you smell it…… poo!
All you can do is laugh at his cutie face and get out the changing mat again.
3) Mums are meant to have all the answers
I had this realisation the first time our little one was sick. His temperature had spiked and wouldn’t come down. My husband looked at me with concern, what will we do, and I thought I have no idea. Let me ring mum and there it was. My first instinct, ring MY mum. And now I am the mum, I am somehow meant to magically know the answers. Luckily I have great support from two amazing mums in my life, which is great, as I have a lot to learn! I feel like I should have mummy L-plates on half the time so at least people will know not to expect all the answers, I might just have to ring my mum!
4) The nights are long but the years are short
I heard this phrase recently and I think it’s so appropriate. When you are up in the middle of the night trying to settle a hysterical baby, the nights are long. When you are up feeding for the third time that night while you hear your other half fast asleep beside you, the nights are long. When your little one decides they want to wake every 45 minutes throughout the night, the nights are long.
But you have to remember that this too shall pass. Many people told me things only get harder, which I don’t really believe. They are different, but not harder. Instead of exhausted from lack of sleep you are exhausted from running around after your little one. Nothing is harder than being terribly sleep deprived. But remember, it will pass.
When I look back on the last year, it really does fly by and I have a feeling the years will just get quicker. We gotta make the most of it while we can.
5) It takes a village to raise a baby
I have no idea how people live far away from their families or move to new places with newborns. Whether its friends or family, we all need support. Especially in those early years. Having someone around to watch your little one while you nip out to the shops, grab a shower or just have a night out to unwind is so important. Having those sanity breaks is so important for our own mental health and wellbeing. So it really does take a village to raise a baby. Remember happy parents mean happy babies!
I can’t believe Christmas has come and gone. It was such a busy period. But it really was one of our best Christmases yet.
While this Christmas was our little ones second official Christmas, it felt like his first as last year he was admitted to hospital on Christmas eve due to low blood sugar. So that really disrupted our plans last year.
This year we felt like we were starting all our family traditions, and it was so much fun.
We got ourselves matching pj’s, had a lovely relaxing Christmas eve walk, made sure a mince pie and coke was left out for Santa and read a Christmas book before bed time.
Over Christmas we managed to fit in a visit to both families, which was very special!
There was so much excitement for both our families having babies around at Christmas.
While I know our little one won’t remember this Christmas, it was still important to us to do things right. Start as we mean to go on. It was so strange being “santa” and setting up the toys as We know our parents did for us for years! So I felt super grown up doing all the mummy jobs. Well not quite all of them, we were extremely lucky to be given two wonderful Christmas dinners over the holidays with each of our families, so no cooking for me thank god. I fear the day I have to cook a full Christmas dinner!